So I may be on to something when I say I should write about dating.
I got another chance to work with the beautiful and enthusiastic Jennifer Dolynchuk today- she has partnered up to create a documentary on fear and was interviewing me on being afraid of heights.
Then she asked me what other things I am afraid of and suggested spiders and dating... and I went on a small tangent.
When I was done telling the small stories that make up my life she was laughing so hard she was worried that she'd ruined the take... and said it's funny because it's real and we've all experienced it... I think that I agree!?
Anyway...
So this guy, who I desperately do not want to remain nameless but will, is a super asshole. Let's talk about it.
We'll call him FZD from here in.. FRIEND ZONE DAVE.
I actually called him FZD, that was his nickname over the last months. He earned it. We met at a job site and the likeliness of me ever having to work with him again is about 0%... although I can imagine ending up as his boss one day. Wouldn't that be fun....
focus.
So I didn't have to worry about the whole dating a coworker thing. He is super cute, funny, relaxed and fun to hang out with. Being that the last guy who tried to date me, TTC, lied about everything under the sun and was super intense about keeping up that lie- still is- FZD was a nice break. He is also 2 years younger than me so not 12 years older than me like my last boyfriend... ALSO A LIAR... why and how do I accept these creatures into my life?
focus.
However, the 'let's shag' vibe quickly faded... whenever we hung out he was drunk and would push, hit and strangle me in my sleep and even one time cussed me out because I wouldn't give him a 'blowie' as he calls it. I wouldn't do anything with FZD because he has slept with over 200 women he thinks but has lost count and wouldn't get checked to sleep with me.
Like, I'm no Sports Illustrated model but I think that I'm attractive... and if a guy visits you at work, drives to your town to hang out and shows general interest, he is probably interested right...? So why not get checked.. it's takes 10 minutes.
I, after quickly learning more about FZD decided that I was not actually attracted to FZD, that he was never going to get checked because he is sleeping with other gals and that I was like no other he'd attempted to date because I challenged him, didn't let him push me around and made him laugh. So I told him that we were just going to be friends. Hence FZD.
And he wouldn't take no for an answer. And up until yesterday was reminding me that he was now checked and clean and ready to go.
My frustration with FZD lies in the fact that he wouldn't leave well enough alone and just be friends. He told my roomie that he was going to be the best boyfriend ever to me if I would let him, and told me that he's so attracted to me and misses me when I'm not with him ect.
So this FZD guy whom I do not want to date, but who is trying to sleep with/date me, is dating someone else!
And it infuriates me because I can't stand a liar and we talked about that and then he lied. Clearly he is not capable of being friends because he can't even tell me that he's been dating this girl for however long. And he's trying to bone me. And date this girl. And date me. And is boning that girl. And she's in love. I know this because it's all over facebook (yes. facebook people).
I took the liberty of writing on facebook under their new relationship status that FZD finally getting checked paid off in the long run (blah blah blah i'm such a child.). Her friend didn't like that. I also noticed that his friends didn't like that she claimed that Dave was in a relationship... which just adds to my opinion of him that he keeps his relationships private because he has to because he keeps several on the go.
So most of July, August, September and now October, FZD has been after me. And he's got another lady. WHO DOES THAT?! AND THANK GOODNESS I SAID NO! fzd.
So dating.
This is why ladies and gentleman (and I know that you are out there because my friends have married you and I'm still single so..), it is okay to take your time to get to know someone, to be vulnerable with them, to be generous with them... because you have to protect yourself and them from prematurely giving trust where it is not due.
I got another chance to work with the beautiful and enthusiastic Jennifer Dolynchuk today- she has partnered up to create a documentary on fear and was interviewing me on being afraid of heights.
Then she asked me what other things I am afraid of and suggested spiders and dating... and I went on a small tangent.
When I was done telling the small stories that make up my life she was laughing so hard she was worried that she'd ruined the take... and said it's funny because it's real and we've all experienced it... I think that I agree!?
Anyway...
So this guy, who I desperately do not want to remain nameless but will, is a super asshole. Let's talk about it.
We'll call him FZD from here in.. FRIEND ZONE DAVE.
I actually called him FZD, that was his nickname over the last months. He earned it. We met at a job site and the likeliness of me ever having to work with him again is about 0%... although I can imagine ending up as his boss one day. Wouldn't that be fun....
focus.
So I didn't have to worry about the whole dating a coworker thing. He is super cute, funny, relaxed and fun to hang out with. Being that the last guy who tried to date me, TTC, lied about everything under the sun and was super intense about keeping up that lie- still is- FZD was a nice break. He is also 2 years younger than me so not 12 years older than me like my last boyfriend... ALSO A LIAR... why and how do I accept these creatures into my life?
focus.
However, the 'let's shag' vibe quickly faded... whenever we hung out he was drunk and would push, hit and strangle me in my sleep and even one time cussed me out because I wouldn't give him a 'blowie' as he calls it. I wouldn't do anything with FZD because he has slept with over 200 women he thinks but has lost count and wouldn't get checked to sleep with me.
Like, I'm no Sports Illustrated model but I think that I'm attractive... and if a guy visits you at work, drives to your town to hang out and shows general interest, he is probably interested right...? So why not get checked.. it's takes 10 minutes.
I, after quickly learning more about FZD decided that I was not actually attracted to FZD, that he was never going to get checked because he is sleeping with other gals and that I was like no other he'd attempted to date because I challenged him, didn't let him push me around and made him laugh. So I told him that we were just going to be friends. Hence FZD.
And he wouldn't take no for an answer. And up until yesterday was reminding me that he was now checked and clean and ready to go.
My frustration with FZD lies in the fact that he wouldn't leave well enough alone and just be friends. He told my roomie that he was going to be the best boyfriend ever to me if I would let him, and told me that he's so attracted to me and misses me when I'm not with him ect.
So this FZD guy whom I do not want to date, but who is trying to sleep with/date me, is dating someone else!
And it infuriates me because I can't stand a liar and we talked about that and then he lied. Clearly he is not capable of being friends because he can't even tell me that he's been dating this girl for however long. And he's trying to bone me. And date this girl. And date me. And is boning that girl. And she's in love. I know this because it's all over facebook (yes. facebook people).
I took the liberty of writing on facebook under their new relationship status that FZD finally getting checked paid off in the long run (blah blah blah i'm such a child.). Her friend didn't like that. I also noticed that his friends didn't like that she claimed that Dave was in a relationship... which just adds to my opinion of him that he keeps his relationships private because he has to because he keeps several on the go.
So most of July, August, September and now October, FZD has been after me. And he's got another lady. WHO DOES THAT?! AND THANK GOODNESS I SAID NO! fzd.
So dating.
This is why ladies and gentleman (and I know that you are out there because my friends have married you and I'm still single so..), it is okay to take your time to get to know someone, to be vulnerable with them, to be generous with them... because you have to protect yourself and them from prematurely giving trust where it is not due.
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